For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, man must not separate.”
Mark 10:7-9 HCSB
Father as I work on myself I pray for strength, endurance, discernment, and a tough skin to deal with life’s hurdles and the distractions caused by the world and others. I pray for the union of others who are married and committed to the vows they recited before witnesses. Father what You have joined together let no man or woman try or succeed at separating. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.
I’m a blessed and joy-filled newlywed and although my marriage feels like my relationship did a few weeks ago before I said “I do” (awesome and effortless), I also know that as a married couple we have a greater commitment to each other because we can’t just jump up and quit, and we can’t just be consumed with self, because we must always consider and protect each other. We also must work harder to protect our relationship from the enemy and human puppets of the enemy. Jesus was clear when he said that no man (and that includes woman) shall separate what God put together.
If you are married don’t take it casually. Don’t treat your marriage like any other relationship. Don’t treat your spouse like a room mate, customer, or business partner. People casually enter marriage taking for granted and blatantly disregarding the vows they spoke before God and witnesses. Marriage is hard work, the hardest work you will ever do, and love, the way we see it isn’t enough.
Love as equated to charity is just as it is described in 1 Corinthians 13:1-13, and it should be approached and shared accordingly as God intended. First Corinthians love is kind and patient. It isn’t jealous, envious, boastful, vindictive, spiteful, unfaithful, dishonest, childish, or selfish. This kind of love doesn’t keep score of past hurt, hold grudges, or play manipulative games, and it isn’t easily angered.
If people expressed and gave the type of love as God intends then we wouldn’t have divorce, issues with infidelity, and excessive drama. There would be no need for these senseless, negative, so-called reality shows if we loved as we were instructed. Can you imagine a shift in our television programming if we watched faithful, committed, and monogamous couples? Can you imagine how enriching programming would be if it weren’t plagued by haters and people vying for an opportunity to break up a happy relationship, “steal” someone’s man/woman, or cause drama in someone’s life? Imagine programming where everyone isn’t trying to be a player, secretly juggling multiple sex partners.
What you ingest and take in you put out.
There isn’t a shortage of good men, there may however be a lack of people with good morals, values, and ethics. There may be a shortage of honest, dignified, and interdependent people. There also may be a shortage of people properly aligning their priorities with what they need in life. We have a lot of people pretending to be someone they aren’t. We have a great deal of people walking around envying and coveting others. This isn’t just the men, but the women also.
If you are married or in another type of committed relationship, invest in and protect it like you do your own life. And we all need to surround and support other couples with love so that even their lows feel more like highs. For those of you who are single and not involved in a relationship, don’t lower your standards to be with a person not available, not faithful, and not equally yoked on every level. Stop looking in someone else’s “yard” and envying their “grass” and what they have. What God gives is meant for the receiver. What God has in store for you won’t be given to someone else.
I dedicate this message to all married couples. May your love light stay well lit (or be reignited). I also dedicate this message to those seeking a loving, committed relationship—may you always walk as a reflection of God, never settling for less and never wanting or pursuing someone else’s “property” or relationship “leftovers”.
Copyright 2013. Natasha Foreman Bryant. Some Rights Reserved. All Prayers and Reflections are Copyright Protected by Natasha Foreman Bryant, unless otherwise noted.
Scripture quotations marked HCSB are taken from the Holman Christian Standard Bible®, Copyright © 1999, 2000, 2002, 2003 by Holman Bible Publishers. Used by permission. Holman Christian Standard Bible®, Holman CSB®, and HCSB® are federally registered trademarks of Holman Bible Publishers.