Pray for peace within your home; that it might reenergize you each day as you prepare for battle with the darkness outside of your walls.
In order to develop and maintain peace at home you must not bring darkness and drama from the outside across your threshold. You must leave the nonsense outside, and demand that others leave their nonsense on the side of your door that faces the world.
Let your home be your place to be most vulnerable. Let it be the place where you come to relax, unwind, heal, be comforted, and prepared for the next day of unknowns.
That doesn’t mean to act a fool outside and then pretend to be cool once you cross the threshold of your home. However, if you do find yourself in the middle of nonsense, put a pin, cap, or whatever you need on it—and refuse to bring the nonsense into your home.
I’m guilty of this. I’ve had more knock out drag out arguments in the homes where I’ve lived, knowing that it would disrupt the peace and tranquility that made it possible to be a home, and not just a house or apartment. It’s extremely difficult, almost impossible, to coexist peacefully in the same place where you battled.
Heated arguments already cause great damage to you mentally, physically, and spiritually. I truly believe that doing so in what is already designated a safe space, tears a big chunk out of you, that you now have to work to mend and heal.
The reason I say this is because your home has memories and now you have created and deposited negative memories within it. Those memories blend in to every nook and cranny, especially in whatever rooms where the argument took place. Every time you recall something said or did, it tears at you, and now you have a picture, chair, bed, blanket, or other item to associate to that painful experience.
Who cares if you argue in the parking lot at a fast food restaurant, you can choose to not go there—but you can’t just up and move from your home. Well you can, but you get my point. You have roots in your home. You haven’t grown roots and attached a sentimental connection to the neighborhood McDonald’s or Taco Bell. There’s another one a few miles away, if not right down the street. There’s plenty of everything else. You only have one home. It is true, home is where the heart is—so we should protect it, to protect our heart.
There is no rest in a toxic environment. It is suffocating. The more the tensions build, the thicker the air becomes in each and every room of your home. There is no refuge in the turmoil that you created and brewed within your home. The only way to free your home and yourself is to extinguish that negative fire that you helped to create.
Toss whatever emotional tinder and accelerants outside and far from your home. Create and maintain a pact that states clearly that your home is to be the no-drama zone. It doesn’t matter if arguments have to be resolved in the car, just make sure it’s extinguished or tabled, before you cross the threshold of your home.
Let your home be what it’s supposed to be—not just physical shelter, but emotional and mental shelter. Your most vulnerable environment should be protected from outsiders and from YOU!
Father, I pray for peace within my life, within my home, and within my mind and heart. Free me from the unnecessary weight of my fears. Lift me Lord. Redirect me when I’m on the path to making a fool of myself. Hold my tongue from speaking harshly, especially in my home. Remind me what home means, and my oath to protect the peace within those walls. Help me to extinguish the emotional flames and purge the toxins from my home. In Jesus’ name I humbly pray to You Father. Amen.