Don’t let loyalty and faithfulness leave you. Bind them on your neck; write them on the tablet of loyaltyyour heart. Then you will find favor and approval in the eyes of God and humanity.
Proverbs 3:3-4 CEB
We are in a time where people are faithful at being unfaithful in more areas than romantic relationships. We are unfaithful in our roles as servants of God, employees and leaders in the workplace, and stewards in the community. So it’s no wonder we fail miserably in matters of the heart—-why we aren’t faithful and loyal in romantic relationships or to our children.
We aren’t faithful because we aren’t loyal, and we aren’t loyal because we aren’t faithful. They run together, side-by-side.
Some people confuse loyalty and faithfulness. According to Collins English Dictionary, loyalty is the quality of staying firm and unmovable in your relationship or support for someone or something. It’s your stickability, your I’m-not-going-anywhere attitude and position.
Faithfulness, according to this same source, is when you remain firm in your belief about someone or something. The more faithful you are the more you believe in the relationship, project, activity, etc. Which means that the more we believe that something is, can be, or will be rewarding to us, the more faithful we are. If you think you will succeed you will remain faithful.
To be faithful is to strongly believe in the possibility or the perceived reality— to strongly believe in someone or something.
To be loyal is to stick around through the good, bad, and boring times. Loyalty means you aren’t searching for a replacement, because you’re too focused on investing in what you have in front of you. Loyalty means that you don’t abandon a relationship or situation just because it’s not perfect or ideal, or because times got tough. It is your lack of faith that causes you to be disloyal. Some people didn’t have strong faith to begin with, so loyalty is never truly formed.
Loyalty encourages you to be innovative and creative in how you demonstrate your stickability, and in helping you to add reinforcing layers of belief, that increases and enhances your faith.