Devotional: Forgiveness and Letting go of Fear and Anger

Pastor Mark Jeske wrote in his Time of Grace Bible plan, a devotional entitled “Marriage is hard: we’re stubborn” that:

Apologizing is hard work. You know what else is hard? Forgiving an apologizing spouse. 
Why? Why should that be hard? Well, for one, it’s easy to suspect that the apology isn’t sincere (“I’m sorry.” “You are not!”). For another, when this isn’t the first argument on a certain misbehavior, the wounded party sees a trend and fears it will continue indefinitely. Am I enabling more of this bad behavior? For another, staying angry gives you emotional leverage. For another, staying wounded gives you the moral high ground in future negotiations. Your injury is an asset–why would you give away this form of capital? 

Holding onto anger, however, poisons your soul. It marinates your spirit in toxins that will affect everything else in your life and especially in this most important of all your human relationships. Holding anger blinds you to your spouse’s gifts and values for your life and keeps you from seeing his or her efforts to make things better. 

There’s a better way. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13). What breaks you out of these anger ruts is the sweet remembrance of the massive debt of ours that our Lord Jesus forgave. If we show a bitter and unforgiving spirit to our spouse, we are daring God to do the same to us. 

Let it go. 

Natasha’s Daily Scripture, Prayer, and Reflection for 1.5.17

Scripture


Colossians 3:13

Prayer

Father thank You for another day of blessings, lessons, and love. Father please touch my heart so that I’m quick to forgive, slow to lash out in pain, and that I refrain from judging others and holding grudges. Just as You forgive, I want to forgive. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen. 

Reflection

We ask God for forgiveness. We’re passionate in our pleas. Yet we’re either slow to forgive others, or we outright refuse. We feel entitled to punish others for hurting us but yet we beg God to spare us punishment for the sins that we commit. 

We are hypocrites. 

Give as God gives. Love as God loves. Forgive as God forgives. Leave the judging for the Judge. Focus on getting and staying right by Him. Stop dictating to others how they should live. Stop trying to control other people. Work on controlling your mind and your mouth. 

Think about it and then do something. God’s waiting patiently for us to get our mess together. 

I love you!

Questions of the Day

1. What would you like to add to today’s prayer and/or reflection?

2. What are your thoughts about today’s message?

3. How can you be more loving and forgiving?

4. What vice would you like to be freed from?

5. Who would you like to pray for today?

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Love always,

Natasha

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Natasha’s Daily Scripture, Prayer and Reflection for 4.29.11

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Colossians 3:13

Pray
Father as I ask You to forgive me for all of my wrongdoings I stop and pray for the freedom and internal peace to forgive other people who have hurt and wronged me, whether knowingly or unknowingly. If in case I have not truly forgiven all who have hurt me, please warm my heart so that I can freely forgive them now. I know that I can’t ask and expect Your forgiveness if I can’t forgive others.

My grudges, my animosity, my anger, my aggressiveness, my bitterness, and my self-victimization only block my blessings from You. Forgive me Father for not letting go of my issues with others. Forgive me for dwelling on the past. Forgive me Father for not reflecting You fully and expressing Your love regardless of how others treat me. In Your name I pray. Amen.

Reflection
If you call yourself a Christian, if you are a student and practitioner of Christ, and if you hope to receive God’s blessings and forgiveness then you need to remember that life is never about you- it’s about our heavenly Father. Do you think His son Jesus spent his days and nights complaining and reflecting on what someone did or didn’t do to and for him?

Do you think he went around telling everyone what someone said about him? Did he go off on those disciples that rejected him? Did he curse and attack those around him? No, he prayed for them and accepted the fact that his experience in life had nothing to do with them or him, but everything to do with our Father.

We have become a society of victims and this has to be displeasing to God since our focus is on ourselves and not on Him. We are supposed to be tools, ambassadors, students, and soldiers in God’s army- His army not ours- His kingdom not ours! We need to stop being concerned about “me” and “I” and more concerned with God and how we can serve Him and His children.

If you find yourself seemingly repeating steps in your life, and having the same experiences it is because you have not learned the lesson God is trying to teach you. You are closed off to Him and until you release, let go, and live the life He has intended then you will stay on the merry-go-round of life.

Stop complaining and whining about what someone did to you and instead live your life righteously without blame and contempt in your heart as Christ instructed. The person who is blameless and free from sin please cast the first stone!

Lovingly,

Natasha

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